Please know your position

Haha, what am I doing here now, blogging at 12am in the morning. :P No lah, I am not going to talk about something that makes me so happy I must share with the world immediately. I going to blog about other things.

As most of you'll know, I am doing training for a company. So these two days I was doing training. During this training, one of the interns at the company was attending my training. Now what amazes me was his behavior. Totally oblivious to what position he is in, I would say. During the training, refreshments are provided to the trainees during the tea breaks. So I was quite surprise when this intern, who did not pay for the training was asking whether he can START on the refreshment. Hello friend, please know your position lah, you are working for the company now leh, these refreshments are for the paid trainees leh. Those paid trainees should be the one who has the first right to the refreshment. You should be taking the leftovers. And this intern did quite a few times, and worse, he would go to the refreshment tables to get a second helping. :S Is this the type of Singaporeans that is our next generation? I shudder at the thought that I generalize his behavior to the whole generation.

What is amazing is that this guy actually ask question during the class and disrupted the flow of things. Now I am not saying that he should not ask questions but he should have raised it when the class is over. Not hold the class like that. What sort of image would it portray about the company? And also what if the question he ask put the trainer in a bad light? Not smart, in my opinion. If I ever know such an intern exist in my company I would have given a stern warning. Now if his questions is one where answering it would benefit other trainees, I would not mind answering it, but it is a question where he does not understand what I have said. Come on lah, please know which position you are in can? If this is the next generation of Singapore. One that acts without much thinking unless he is doing his work, I think Singapore is in for trouble.

People must realize that the brain needs to keep on exercise in order to be sharper and smarter. So please keep on thinking, can? Know which position you are in and act accordingly. Since you are an intern, act like one. You are representing the company, even if it is a short period of time. And since you are the staff, serve the customers first.

For me, I do not go for my lunch during the training days, I also do not dare to ask if I can start on the refreshment first. Only when most of the trainees have taken their share, then I take what is left over. I guess that is one of the way I slim down. Haha.

Anyway, these few days, I have been feeling very joyous and happy. I keep on visualizing my end results and I really feel that I have achieve them, and it keeps me in this happy mood. :D And I think a trip back to the center really lifted my spirits. I need to be around my friends, I guess. Haha.

Ok I have to stop here, my eyelids weighs a few tons now! Enjoy the weekend! Cheers!

Networking

Well, I am back at the centre..... for a day, which explains why I am able to blog on a afternoon :P. Just 'finish' a IT project, but there were some unhappy episode, so I am not going into that. Passionately complaining about it would attract more of it into my life. :) So learn to let go and not let it bother and take me away from my main goal. And again there are some lessons learnt from it and one of them is the same old lesson which is not to take things for granted. Somehow or rather, once you take things for granted, the Universe may just take it away from you since you are not showing any appreciation for it. So do remember to practise gratitude for LOA. The episode also let me know what I really want as well in my life, because I have been giving some thoughts to it since it happened. Lesson learnt! Thanks for the lesson! :)

Yesterday, attended a farewell dinner for a friend that is leaving for Hong Kong to work for 2 months. So I met quite a few friends during the dinner, some that do not meet often. The thing is last year, I made quite a lot of friends and trainees because of the trainings I gave. So I remember a lot of faces but alas, names does not come along with the image. :P I even met a trainee yesterday night and I was trying very hard to recall where I have seen her. Haha! But thank goodness I remember. I need to find a better way to associate face with names. Anyone got any idea how?

Lunch was good since I am back at the centre. Finally, I can have a proper lunch. Those days at the client's side was hell. I can only have lunch at 2pm because it is impossible for me alone to book a seat and order food at the same time. And only leave the office at 7-8pm like that. But hei, at least it made me become more appreciative of the centre. :P Of course, chatting with my friends was nice especially for the fact that I have not seen most of them for close to two weeks.

Oh another thing, I just receive news that I would most likely be moving office, to an office where there are more people than what my current office have. Far away from the 'passionate' man and closer to you-know-who :P Is that a sign from the Universe? Haha! Let's not go into that. But I am excited about moving office, a chance to step out of the comfort zone and mix around with more people. But my former colleagues going to have a hard time tolerating the unhygienic habits of the 'passionate' man.For your information, quite a handful of people say that he is a walking bio-hazard. :P So I am going to say "THANK YOU VERY MUCH" to the universe. THANK YOU VERY MUCH! :D

Ok that is all for now, I have to go back and prepare the course materials for the training I am conducting for tomorrow.

Cheers and thank you for all the good things that have happen, are happening and will happen.

The week after the Greatest Week

Very fast, another week has passed by since last week, and if you followed my blog you would know many positive things happened to me. There is one piece of good news that I receive with great joy and happiness last week and I am having a lot of positive 'side' effects from it. :)

I have no idea why but after that piece of news, I kind of feel more confident about the things I do and I have certain motivation to do things better now. I do not see the connection why such things would happen, but I guess could be because there is tremendous amount of good feeling derived from it. I felt like a different person altogether and it makes me a stronger believer of LOA as well. You really do not need to figure how it works. Just have absolute faith that it will work to what you want. Of course, that must be accompanied with a lot of visualization. That is all I have to say. Thank you very much to the best friend that introduce me to LOA. I can see much differences compare to the time when I am only aware but not practising LOA.

Of course, I strongly believe that at the end of my day, I will be able to achieve my goal of being rich. But learning and practising the LOA, keeps me fully motivated and committed and help me gain much progress.

Anyway, after last week, I really felt like a very different person now. I am more happy than ever before, smile more often, more confident as well. I feel very positive now, about the present and the future. No idea why but I am enjoying the moment.

Cheers to this moment and it WILL last forever.

My Sentiments

This is a song I came across when I watched the movie "Music & Lyrics" starring Drew Barrymore and Hugh Grant. It reflected my sentiments and I am surprised that I "attracted" this song. Anyway, enjoy the song and lyrics.



Don't Write Me Off Yet

It’s never been easy for me
To find words to go along, with a melody
But this time there’s actually something, on my mind
So please forgive these few brief awkward lines

Since I’ve met you, my whole life has changed
It’s not just my furniture, you’ve rearranged
I was living in the past, but somehow you’ve brought me back
And I haven’t felt like this since before Frankie said relax

And while I know, based on my track record
I might not seem like the safest bet
All I’m asking you, is don’t write me off, just yet

For years I’ve been telling myself, the same old story
That I’m happy to live off my so called, former glories
But you’ve given me a reason, to take another chance
Now I need you, despite the fact, that you’ve killed all my plants

And though I know, I’ve already blown more chances
Than anyone should ever get
All I’m asking you, is don’t write me off, just yet
Don’t write me off just yet

What a week!

This pass week has been the best week of my life since don't know when. Many things happened in a positive way.

The guy which I do not like made an obvious stupid mistake in front of management, hei not my fault if he wants to self-destruct right? Haha! Went to a Japanese Buffet with some of my colleagues and had a lot of fun talking about the future and happenings in the centre. The restaurant's food is nice and the ambience is good. And the best thing is the buffet does not costs a lot, around $35. Two positive things happened this week which I definitely will not forget. They will be stored inside my "Important Memories" Cabinet in my brain. Received a major piece of good news that is totally unexpected but I love it.

Went to one of the places of interest in Singapore which I have not been there for since don't know when. They renovated the place beyond recognition or wait, do I know what it was previously anyway? Haha! Went to a birthday party of my Filippino colleague, which I had a lot of fun and I find out my singing sucks! Haha! So friends, please don't make me sing again unless you brought earplugs. My singing is so monotonous. Haha! I wonder is it because I read too much books :P

To round off the week, I went with some Indonesian friends to catch the movie "Music & Lyrics" with Drew Barrymore and Hugh Grant in it. I always like Drew Barrymore when she acts in love comedy. I thought she and Adam Sandler are great screen couple until I watched the movie that I mentioned above. I like the two movies where they play a couple in them, "The Wedding Singer" and "50 First Dates" Those are in my list of favourite movies as well. Of course the part that tugs my heart string the most is inside "The Wedding Singer" where Adam Sandler sang to Drew Barrymore, baring his heart to her in the airplane. Nice. :) I can never forget that scene.

I love that song that Adam Sandler sang. It is titled "Grow old with You" Below is the lyrics, and thanks to technology, here is the movie clip! :D



Grow Old With You

I wanna make you smile whenever you're sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All I wanna do is grow old with you

I'll get your medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you

I'll miss you
I'll kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold

I'll need you
I'll feed you
Even let ya hold the remote control

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed if you've had too much to drink
I could be the man who grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you

Anyway, coming back to the movie I watched. It is definitely a nice movie and I can find many scenes that I can relate to. Haha! But like all typical love comedy, the guy and the girl come together eventually. Ooops. :P I wonder such a thing happen in real life or not? Haha! Anyway, do watch the movie. I highly recommend it.

So in conclusion, this week is definitely the best week I have experienced for this year and this award will be hard to beat unless I have another bolt of rainbow in my life! Whatever it is, THANK YOU for making it happen, I really appreciate it and do continue to bring more good things into my life please.

Cheers!

Controlling How the Mind Thinks

Now I am facing the biggest challenge in my life. I need to control the way my mind thinks about stuff. My mind most of the time seems to have a pair of legs on its own and thinks a lot, no idea is it because of that that is why I am still so slim? Anyone can provide scientific proof if any? Haha! I usually will let my mind run wild when thinking of certain things in the area of business and life because usually I would be better prepared for things to come and usually I would cover a lot of details. There are mistakes that I have made because of the details that I overlook, but it seems these mistakes are not many. Other mistakes that I committed are those details that I do not know. So I learn from my mistakes.

So you can see my mind has serve me well to a certain extent. Now I realise that for a particular problem, I have to rein in this wild horse in my mind and tie it up in order for me to advance. I have no idea how but I will try my best to make it. A great challenge indeed. Maybe after the exercise, I would really gain a lot more. Wish me luck! :)

Cheers!

Waiting

As the title says, I am going to talk about waiting. Everyone is always waiting for something. For example, waiting for a dream to come true, waiting for a bus to come, waiting for the perfect job, waiting for the perfect spouse, waiting to strike the first prize in lottery, waiting for salary and so on. If you think carefully, each and every minute we are waiting for at least one thing.

There are many kinds of wait. One is to do something to make the wait shorter and another is to do nothing and hope for the best, another is to do something to make the wait longer and many more.

These few days, like I mentioned I am not at the centre but am doing a IT project at client's side. Their computer is so slow, the wait for the thing to process is really a killer and very tiring as well. How come so tired, I have no idea, since I am just sitting down there only, waiting for the computer to process my command.

This kind of waiting is very tedious because you have no idea when the wait will end. And if the result is something you need to advance further, to make it worse, something u need it urgently as well, both factors make the wait even worse. These last two days I have been waiting for the computer to process my command until it really tested out my patience. But thank goodness, I maintain a positive attitude and thus my day was made slightly better but still very tiring.

Now I am waiting to make my dreams come true. To be a person capable of helping other people to achieve more in their lives. Of course, I am not there waiting and doing nothing, I have my business and training to help me achieve it. I am also waiting to go back to the center, to have lunch with my friends. Haha, no idea why the value of friendship is so much higher compared to last time. Anyway, I know I am someone who cannot live without friends, and thank goodness I am not someone who irks others often so I have lots of friends and good friends.

Well thank you to all my friends out there for being..... my friends! :D

Cheers!

A long 'holiday'

Well after tomorrow, I will not be in the center for some time to come, at least more than 14 days. Like I mentioned before, I like the life I am leading now, sometimes here, sometimes there, no fixed place. Thoughts of leaving the center has come up so many times for the last year, but finally I 'settle' on leaving at the end of this year, although if I can complete the business platform for my website then I will consider leaving early.

Things are picking up on my training front, well sort of, since they want me to take on more courses. That means I still need to be busy a few more months to go through the course materials (at least another 3 more course to go. *faint*). And like I said I need to develop the business platform for my site. need a few months to set up the infrastructure and research. Sure wish I can hurry up develop this. Hopefully I am attracting more opportunities at the end.

I have been back at the center for only two weeks and now I am going to 'disappear' again. Feels kind of sad because I am going to miss the lunches with my friends again. I always love the lunch time back at the center because of the company I have. We talk about how to be successful, gossip about what is happening around the center, talk about business, financial planning, political issues, cultures, food and many more. Most of these are intellectual stimulating which I love. When I am doing training or projects, I usually have lunch alone. Haha, for those who lunch alone will know how I feel. So you can see, if the time comes that I decide to leave the center, I truly will miss the company I have at the center. I have build long term bonds with so many of them, and the bond is strong because we did many things together, like playing badminton, having dinner and many more.

Life really have been good to me, giving me so many good friends, opportunities and resources for me to move forward for the last twenty years. It has given me a lot of chances to make myself abundant in relationship, financial and mental and thank goodness I have grabbed most of them. A big THANK YOU to Life. These two years will be one of the important and unforgettable years in my life.

Cheers to the good things in life! And big THANK YOU for those that are coming now!

Cheers!

Globalisation

Went out with Indonesian and Filipinos friend today for Filipino dinner today. Nice! During the dinner we talk about our language and cultures, especially food since we are at a restaurant. We discuss about the similarity and differences, and how our colonial masters have affect our language as well, for example, finding some Spanish words in Tagalog, some Dutch words in Bahasa Melayu and so on. It was a nice discussion and of course there are many jokes as well.

I really do like globalisation, without it, there would be very little interaction between people of many countries. In the olden days, such interaction is the privilege of rich people, now, anyone can interact with people of other countries, if they make an effort to step out.

I really like such interaction because it satisfy my curiosity of knowing this world more and the best part is I do not have to step out of the country to know more. Sometime Singaporeans should not complain too much about foreign talents coming to Singapore. There is no way we can stem such a flow. As globalisation continues, the movement of people is going to be greater. Instead of complaining about it, why not use it to expand your network? We can learn more from each other so that when we go to each others country as a guest, we know how to act and appreciate their cultures, especially food culture. Haha!

Now I have friends in Philippines, Indonesia, Malaysia and Myanmar. Isn't that great? I love it and thank goodness these friends are the outgoing, spontaneous type so there is a lot of meaningful interactions, outings and eating gathering. :D

I do understand why people are complaining that they do not like too many foreign talents to come in. Because they raise competition, but looking from another point of view, it is a gd source of knowledge, friendship and maybe wealth as well. :) They raise the competition for us, so we should improve ourselves and make ourselves worthy competitors to them. But why compete if we can create a win-win situation? Work together! New ideas may just sprout at the correct moment.

Tomolo meeting another group of Indonesian friends! Haha! Nice!

Cheers!

Stay Positive

Haha! Have not written two post on the same day. Shiok? :P Just that I find this quite interesting so I decided to blog on it. As I keep on blogging LOA, I think a lot of people going to think I am crazy, but never mind that, I believe in it and that counts most. Today I made a request to see a person, thinking that since I would not be around from tomolo onwards, but there is a change in schedule, so no need lah! But at the end, I still met her, two times somemore. Well the response is within my expectations, but it still felt overwhelming. Took me quite a while to refrain myself from going into negative, and I do admit my emotional muscle is not strong enough as I went into relapses, as in slump into negative emotions quite a few times. Either my 'training' not enough or the feeling is too much. If it is the latter, that means I have place too much value in this, but another point of view is I have put in a lot of effort and time. Oh and before anyone said that I am irrational, I still have a clear mind.

Remember I said, my friends said things were optimistic but I refused to be. It is right not to be too optimistic.

After I left the MRT, I made a vow to start thinking positive. Initially, a bit difficult, but I 'forced' myself, haha, then I realise that I miss my bus， this lead to me to realise that I am focusing on negative stuff again. So I start thinking gd thoughts as I am at the bus stop, within 5 mins (usually the next bus will come 10 mins later), my bus came, and I made a request that the bus door will stop in front of me. Surprise surprise, the bus stop in front of me. Nice :D

Well they may be small things to me, but it makes me realise that as long as I think and feel positive, I shall be rewarded with more good stuff! Hehe! Go with the flow. As long as I keep on visualizing the future, take positive steps, we will be together. I still believe my main purpose in the center has not been achieved yet.

She is definitely worth the wait and I am sure what I want. Now I need the strength to ride on this emotional roller coaster. Hold on tight :P . Last one week really drained most of my emotional muscle strength. Need to recharge! Yeah!!!

To the good friend who agree to help, thank you very much, I know it is challenging. No words can measure how much appreciation I have for the help. I promise to make an effort as well and by all means scold me when needed, definitely will not have hard feelings. :) I shall not give up.

Thank you very much for seeing her and thank you for surrounding me with so many good friends. Cheers!

We are all politicians!

My center is receiving new people. And everytime a new person comes, it would be like a drop of water into a big water body, causing ripples that spread in all directions. Depending on a person' s character or positions, sometime the ripples can range from small to tsunami size. And these ripples are what we can call office politics perhaps. Everyone in the water body either flow with the ripples, successfully block the ripple or restrict the effect of the ripple on him. Each drop of water bring new dynamics to the water body also.

Office politics can sure make one very tired at work and reduce efficiency. The funny thing is that it is more prevalent in private sector than public sector, well at least in my opinion. I guess it is because the stakes are higher in the private sector compare to public sector. Because most of the 'good' positions would have been taken by residents of ivory tower. So their fighting is over power and nothing else while those at the bottom just ride out the waves that is caused. Whereas office politics is played out in every ranks of the private sector.

Is there anyway of avoiding office politics? I think information, or should I say transparency and structure of the rewards system is very important, which means the job lies on the employer. By being transparent and structuring the rewards system so much so that people only focus on improving results in their jobs, office politics would be reduced to a large extent. Funny thing is up till now I have not seen a study on how office politics affects business. I guess it is very difficult since no idea what can be used as a proxy to gauge the level of office politics in a company, let alone finding a good proxy. I think people have to know how to protect themselves when working, so that office politics will not cause their work life to be overburdened. Best thing is handling office politics is something that is not taught in schools, another life skill. Haha! Can see how inadequate the schools are in preparing you as a human in this large society? :P

Most people would laugh about other people in the drama when office politics is played out to the protagonist, but funny things is when the same thing that happen to them, they took the same decision as the protagonist in the drama. Well that is the reason why I never laugh at those people, but learn from them, see how to avoid getting in the same position. Haha! Thank goodness it is not played out at the places where I work, or maybe there is but I am not involved. I did played once when the Pass---ate Man tried to tekan me. That time was easier because thank goodness I have laid a gd groundwork.

I think that is all I have to say about office politics for now. I don't like it, but as long as we are working and part of this society, there is no avoiding it. Just have to be smart enough and protect ourselves.

Cheers!

Cheers!

Don't make it worst than it is

Remember my last blog entry? When I said that the person did something that make me so angry, because I thought that the effort I put in for six months went down the drain and have to rebuild everything again.

Apparently, what happened the last two working days seems to say otherwise. I myself have "make" the situation worse than what it should be. Sigh! This reminds me of something that Anthony Robbins, a success coach, said before:"See the situation as it is, not worst than it is." Haha, I heard his audio so many times but apparently, my brain choose to forget about this tool. And this time I "think" the situation worst than what it really is. :)

Oh well, I guess one should not get into anger so easily, because it really mess up people's logic thinking. But I guess it is because I placed too much value to the situation that is why, when it screwed up, I was really pissed. The best thing that happen to me is I actually chatted with the guy, that was the prime suspect for screwing up my stuff, for a while, on my way back from a meeting. I guess I have to thank my friend for the "training" and "teaching". Cheers to that!

Anyway, a lot of my friends said that things look more optimistic now than before based on what happen during the last two working days, well, I have no idea what is going on. All I can say is, there are some things in life that are really difficult to fathom. I also do not want to get too excited about it, in case I screw myself up. All I want is that at the end of the day, I achieve what I wanted. The goal is still far, but I am sure I will achieve it! Just trust the process and be patient.

Thank you Universe for the arrangement. Cheers!

Controlling Anger

Had another experience of emotional control yesterday. Some immature guy did something to me, that makes me so angry, an immense anger that I have never experience before in my life. This anger was going to be very destructive if I ever let it out. It was like a fire dragon waiting to burst out and do a lot of damage to anything that comes its way. I was trembling with anger. Let me set things straight. I am not kidding about it.

Anyway, I am able to tame this dragon, fortunately, thanks to the many emotional muscle 'training' and going through NS helps, I guess :P Usually when you are faced with negative emotions, the best part was to not focus on it, try to think of other happy thoughts. Well, for this case I did not. As I mentioned before, I was trembling with anger. So I had to focus on getting my physique back to calm state. I took a few deep breathes as I try to focus on remaining calm. In the end, I manage to get it back down. Thank goodness. Learning to focus the mind was very helpful, I think this comes with practising visualization, since doing that would need a very focus mind.

Cheers! :)