Going with the Flow

Haha! Finally come out of the hole already. :D So happy, haha, takes a bit of effort but I finally show who is boss. :P

In my previous blog, I have said that I have discovered something about the concept of "Letting go" meaning, letting go of a certain Want. Very simple actually. This wisdom I am sharing can serve as a benchmark of "letting go".

The key to executing this wisdom in your 'letting go' process is to be able to see your thoughts, again going back to being mindful and to be mindful, it can be achieved through meditation. Ok shall not hold the readers too long. Very simple, look at all the decisions that you have made. Does your Want actually influence it? For instance, when you like someone you will try to "coincidentally" bump into her. Your actual actions and movements were influence indirectly by her. This is not letting go, this is actually holding or grabbing it even tighter and in the end, there is no peace of mind, because you keep on thinking how to go about meeting her "accidentally", putting in great effort, swimming against the flow.

If you know that she usually go for lunch at this time and will pass through a certain place. You will do your utmost to make sure you appear at that particular place and time and when the result you received at the end is not up to your expectations, you become disappointed. For instance, she have a meeting but you do not know so you kept on waiting at the particular place and time, but all your effort went down the drain.

This is swimming against the flow. You try to 'force' things to happen. To go with the flow, just do what you need to do. If the opportunities turns up 'naturally' without you making too much of an effort, for instance you happen to be at this particular place and you know she might be passing through in a minute or two, then GRAB the opportunity. And she does not turn up, don't be sad or disappointed. At least you did not make too much of an effort and did not lose out too much. :P Continue to go with the flow and you might end up at the destination that you want to be. Just keep on noticing and grabbing the opportunities that comes along.

So, look at your decisions and see if it is influenced by your wants. If it is, you are not letting go and not going with the flow. Hope this wisdom helps!

Cheers!