A world without time

Would like to share some thoughts on a common experience for most people. Two days ago, I forgot to wear my watch to work. We all know that the function of the watch is to tell us where we are on a timeline in a day. So you will know whether you are late or not. So for that day, when I realize that I forgot to bring my watch, my measurement scale is lost. I suddenly do not have the concept of whether I am late or not.

Since I do not have such a notion anymore, things suddenly look like it has slowed down. I took my time to walk to the bus stop. But I was lucky as well, the bus did not take long to reach my bus stop, but as for how long, I have no idea because I do not have a watch.

But things got back to normal when I reach my workplace, because at the workplace, I have a watch that is found at the bottom of most desktop computer, assuming you are using the Windows OS. So every affair is a mad rush again, working according to schedule.

But once I got off from work, again there is no rush anymore. I took my time to reach my bus stop and waited for my bus to come. There are no thoughts like “It has been five minutes already. How come the bus is still not here?” or “What is taking this bus so long, I have been waiting here for 15 mins already!!”

If the readers notice, the watch actually provide us with a relative truth, as in where we stand on a day’s timeline. It makes us become clearer as to how much we are losing and so on. If this concept of measurement is gone from our life, similar to me not wearing watch for that day, your day changes. You can start to do things at your own pace, be at peace with yourself and start to be mindful of what you do instead of concentrating whether you stand in the timeline.

Try a day without your watch. You might find yourself at peace with what you are doing and you might actually excel in the tasks that you undertake that day.

Cheers!

Sticky sticky!

I am sure most of us have tried to kick a bad habit. For instance, to get rid of that addiction of cigarettes, watching soccer, reading books, gambling and so on. It can really get very annoying in the first place because suddenly the thing that you want to get rid of gets to pop up very often, more often when you have not decide to kick it, or still indulging in it.

Well it happen to me as well. But mine is not something that is an inanimate thing like a book or a smoke where as long as you maintain a distance for the longest period, you will be able to kick it, not addicted to it.

Haha, this might sound confusing to readers but if you have follow what I have written so far, I am sure you know what I mean. Not to be 'addicted' about it would take greater effort because firstly I cannot stay a distance because that could cause an effect on other areas of my life. That is one challenge, so I have to be continuously 'exposed' to it.

The thing is when I am exposed to it, I keep on finding more things that we agree upon, more similarities in our thinking and preference and how good at pointing out a different perspective of looking at things for me. Of course, this is not something like what Ajahn Brahm said that before marriage, we always see the beautiful side of our partner but once we get married and gets into a quarrel, we start to dwell on their ugly side and forget that it was a few months ago we married "The most beautiful lady/The most handsome man on Earth!"

I also saw the weaknesses that she have and actually have pointed it out to her and help to rectify it. Every time I find out the similarity that we have, the more difficult it is for me to 'tear' myself off, because I am amazed at how much we agree upon. Every time we discuss something, she is able to point out a different but credible perspective for me to contemplate. That is why I like to discuss issues with her, cos it set me thinking and in more interesting point of view. Each discussion or chat that I have her, makes me yearn more that we can be together. And it also makes me treasure whatever time we have together.

Today, something great happen to me, my group assignment actually scored a distinction. The first person I want to share my joy with is her. And sometime when I start trading 'insults' with a colleague, to liven up the situation, she will also tried to help me and put in good words for me so that my colleague will have 'mercy' on me. =)

Why let me know her? Why?!?!

Have to continue to 'forget' about her and move on.

Anyway, would like to share a song with all readers. I am sure one of my best friend would find this song familiar. Yes it is the ending song of Healing Hand III. And I am dedicating this song to her although she will not be able to hear it. =)

To other readers, have fun with the rest of week. Cheers!

To pursue or not to pursue

We have watch a lot of drama. Be it in real life or in the idiot box that we have at home. I am sure there is this sentence that resonates in many people, especially me and that is "You have to fight for the things you want!"

If only things are that simple. Yes, we can fight for things we want by taking actions that we are confident will achieve the result that we want, in this case getting the things we want. But one must realise we work in an interconnected world. Yes, one action can lead to achieving the results that we want but usually actions we take in our life radiate out, meaning there are other consequences that accompany with the action.

So yes, as much as I would like to fight for the things I want, I think I should need to consider the other consequences that might accompany the action I would like to take. Haha, yes I did promise to myself that if I met the perfect girl, I would fight for it but I have look at things to simplistically. Current situation and my circumstances really does not allow me to fight for what I want.

Only thing I can do is to offer help whenever she needs, offer a listening ear when she needs. Shoulder can be offered only when she requested but that is only when I heard a straight request. Again, playing the behind the scene, supporting role. =). If only......

Every "If only..." statement can be made but must let go because when one make a sentence, we are always looking at the past where we cannot change at all.

Every "I wish...." statement made only goes to show there is suffering because you have not get what you want, an unmet desire.

I think for now, I can only be by her side but not "by her side". Haha, don't know what I mean? Maybe a little contemplation is in order.

Wonder when I can finally become the main character? Cheers! =)

One event, two associations

Hello readers, I am fine. No worries. Just very sad and frustrating that something that I look fwd to since it was announced was taken from me without much warning. It was something that I tried my best to arrange it, within my means but as a Chinese saying goes "To plan is human, to succeed is Heaven". But anyway, this is not what I want to talk abt, since I have talk abt it yesterday.

Today, one of my colleague share with me something which I feel should share my thoughts with the readers and the 'future' me. One of the family member of my colleague went overseas yesterday. Now because last time when someone in her family went overseas, something very bad happened. This lead her mind to think, that this time round, something could happen. And her mind started to make up many possibilities and these possible situations become from bad to worse as she think more abt it. As usual, I offer her my opinion.

I told her, yesterday, I have a family member that also went overseas. But I did not worry about it. Not because that this family member is not important. It is just because of the interpretation of the situation that is different. Her mind being naughty associated the event that her family member once go overseas, there is a high possibility that something bad have happen. Whereas for me, my association is my family member will have a good time there and will buy something for me when she is back. =)

So I told her, as long as she starts to dis-associate this thinking that her mind has with the event. Then there is no worry to have. As always, the 'wise' one is correct, and she agrees with the wise one. Haha! Glad to be of help to her.

I hope the readers see what I am driving at. If not, just drop me a comment, and I am willing to explain more.

Cheers!

Why?

Today was a very bad day for me. I did not do anything on what I set out to do today because I have to tend to other urgent matters which does not really value add to the company that I am currently working in.

What is worst is that something that I have looked forward to greatly, was taken away from me. = ( I was looking fwd to it for a very long time since it was announced until the news came in today. I was devastated (no, I did not exaggerate, I am) when I heard about it but I cannot show my displeasure. I have to 'swallow' it down. I am very sad now that it is made known to me, but there is nothing much I can do. Should I say that I should expect it because this pattern of things keep on repeating itself in my Life? But how am I to know that it will turn out this way? I really want the vicious cycle to stop but whenever I am hopeful things will improve, someone out there like to punch it and make a big mess of it.

Sigh! Have to stop here. This is really a bad week.

Cheers! (At least must manage a smile at the end) =)

Give me an Excuse

Today, I am very angry at myself. Why? Well, I look back at what I have achieved so far in life, after two years of pursuit, what I envision I would be now two years ago, compare to the actual situation now, seems so different. Argh!!!

Business wise, it is moving very slowly. Too slow in my opinion, I am working hard to make things happen faster but then there is a limit to how much I can push myself. Love life? What more can I say, I met the ideal girl but I cannot go after her because I do not want 'trouble' and she is attached. All I can say, we are now very good friends. She shares her secrets with me, shares what problems she met, shares her happy moments in the office with me, even what happens to her bf (not everything, of course). This is how Life plays the joke on me! Let me know the ideal girl, become good friends and colleagues but CANNOT move forward! Shucks! Torturous! Must try to laugh it off. =)

I also feel that there are so many things beyond my control. Best friend wedding at the end of the year, but I cannot attend because of my MBA time-table issue. Money seems to be flowing out faster, cannot find a meal during lunch time that can keep me full till dinner time. Am trying to live within budget because I have to save for the MBA tuition fees, but it has become really challenging. Maybe I should get a smaller belt. The MBA program allowed me to have a more disciplined learning, but it is tiring me out because of the amount of readings, grp meetings and assignments! Want to have a rest also very difficult to find time to rest! I do not regret taking the MBA but I wish I can have a proper rest now.

Ok finish complaining! Now comes something more useful for my readers, since they have sit through my complaints. In life, we always know that we need to fight for what we want or I assume more people does. For instance, you want to ask someone if he or she will help. You know that you need to open your mouth and ask otherwise how would the person know you need his/her help. I wonder if the following is familiar to you. Have you come across a time when you needed something from someone, say for instance you need to borrow $50 from a friend, to buy that particular gift for your spouse? Now even before you start to open your mouth, your mind starts to give you a lesson in "1001 reason why you cannot borrow $$ from good friends" "No lah, properly he does not have enough money for me?", "No lah, he very busy now. I do not want to disturb him." "No lah, he might charge me an interest.".

Before you even attempt to tempt probability, you already eliminated the chance of getting what you want by YOU, yourself, helping that person to find excuses to reject your request. Don't you find it ridiculous? You, yourself, kill your chance of succeeding!! Remember, don't kill yourself, don't give so much excuses. As Nike says, "Just Do It" and then let the fate decide if you will succeed or not.

Ok, before I end this blog entry, would like to leave readers with this song that I come across in Youtube. I am sure most people are familiar with this song. The title is "How Do I Live" Like to dedicate this song to someone but I guess she will never hear of it, but anyway, no excuse given! I am dedicating this song to YOU. =) And for readers, thanks again for listening to my complaints. I hope the lesson above is enough to pay you for your attention.



Cheers!

Pay Me

Life sometimes crack jokes, and my advice to people when they found that Life has cracked a joke on you, just laugh it off and continue with life lah =)

Yesterday, when I came back, I came across this song. This song resonates in me so I decide to share it with readers. Song title is "I Finally Found Someone" sang by Barbara Streisand & Bryan Adams. This song came at the appropriate time when my good friend decided to break this impt news to me, and that he is getting married. So good friend, would like to dedicate this song to you and your future wife. Really happy for you'll. And yes, appreciate greatly that I am the first few people to know, although I miss the chance to be the first. (Haha, me Singaporean mah! Kiasu! Haha!)



Ok the main task is done. Next comes the topic of the blog. Any idea what is the cheapest way to make someone happy? Well I personally think it is to pay someone a compliment. Of course one must pay a compliment that is true to his/her heart otherwise people will think that he/she is a hypocrite, so yes there is an art of paying compliment. Paying compliment 'correctly' will make one very popular, because people like to be around you, because they are comfortable, in fact happy when they are around you. It also foster relationship as well.

As we all know, if the relationship is stronger, it is easier to get help when you need one. All because you bother to take notice of the goodness of people and make known to his/her that he has done well.

Haha, why I was saying this is because I forgot to pay someone a compliment =P. Very bad of me. It makes me contemplate about paying compliments and its implications. Haha! When I contemplate about it, I finally realise that I "gave up" a chance to make someone happy and in terms the following chain of people whom she is going to spread her happiness to. Well, have a colleague who recently went to do her hair up and when she came back, she really look very beautiful. I guess too beautiful, that is why I forgot to pay her a compliment. Until when I was going back home, then I realise I forgot to pay the compliment but alas she is going for course and will not be around for the next few days. I guess would be quite strange to pay her a compliment about her when she come back next week.

Why not make it a habit to pay someone a compliment? Be quick about it though because the window of opportunity to pay someone a compliment closes fast. Go ahead, make someone day. Don't worries if people give u a strange look, I am sure at least when you have paid a compliment that is true to your heart, you will feel happy. At least don't lose out right? Haha!

Cheers!

Down but not out

These few days have been getting the blues (since Friday, if my mindfulness did not fail me). Not that the workload has gotten heavier but somehow or rather, I just do not feel that things are great =)

Haha, for most people,most people will feel the blue on Monday because they have to go back to work after a weekend of fun, but for me all days, no matter weekend or weekdays just feel the same for me so what is Monday blues to me? But today, I just cannot lift up my spirits to 'face' the world. In fact, I just feel like wanting to hide somewhere and be alone for a while. That is why today at work I try to be 'alone' sitting quietly at my desk and try as much as possible to interact less with my colleagues. I guess no one detected by 'strangeness' cos no one approach and ask me what happen. Either I can get a nomination at the Oscars or my colleagues are just .... my colleagues =)

Whatever the case maybe, I hope that I can get out of it soon and hope that it does not come back anymore. Cos it is really difficult to work when I am feeling the blues. The worst is I cannot even pinpoint why I am feeling this way. If I can, that would be easy. Anyway, have to force myself and get back to work, otherwise I am behind schedule.

Blue cheers! =)