Be Careful. We are also Doctors.

Many a times we would experience some good friends, best friends, acquaintances and family members coming to us and tell us their problems or secrets.

Please remember when they do that, there are two implications here.

Firstly, it is very likely that you will give them your opinion or advise on their problems or secrets. Why I said so is people have a natural tendency to want to feel superior over others. As such, giving advice does seem to help project such an image. Since it is our tendency to do it, please know how to give advice to others. See advice as helping others to see a better picture of their problems, provide them many perspectives as you can think of so that their thoughts and information are better thus making a better decision since he/she has consider more viewpoints as compared when he/she is looking at her problem alone. Please note that as long as your advice is heard, it is very likely that it will have implications on the decision that is made and thus you are, to a extent liable for the decision made. So try your best to give good advice. Besides looking at the short term, you should also help the person see the long term implications of his/her decision, if any. Learn how to give good advice. If you give good advice, you can see yourself surrounded with more friends, because they like to hang out with you, because you make them wiser, wiser with the choice they make.

Second implication is, the person must have placed a certain amount of trust on you, that is why he/she tells you his/her problem. Think of it this way, would you trust your secret or problem with someone you do not trust? So yes, although you do not treat that person as a good friend or best friend, it does not mean that he does not treat you as best friend or good friend. As such, do not betray such trust. True friendship is very difficult to get and foster, so take care to nurture the trust that is given to you.

People seem to come to me with their problems or secrets. Like today, a colleague of mine whom I treat as my sister, told me her secret. I never did ask them to tell me, but most of them would just tell me. I find that amazing and thought of it for a while. That is why I came up with what I have written above. Like the readers to know such implications and will take care of the relationships fostered.

No idea why such things happen but I am glad that my friends trusts me. I really feel rich to have many friends who treat me as good friends. Thank you!

Cheers!